The Words We Speak Can Be Very Destructive

What are words? Well words are the expression of my thoughts and are the essence of who I am. You can never get to know someone without listening to their words. Their words are expressing what they are feeling and the kind of person that they really are. Just think for a moment of what our world would be like if we were unable to speak words.
Some might think that it would be a better place, and they might have an argument for that, but when you really come down to it, we would be hard pressed to have any real value in this world and in ourselves without words. It would make for a very dull and unresponsive society.
From the time you were just an infant in a crib, you soon learned very quickly how to express yourself and draw attention to what you wanted through, crying at first, but than latter you learned to develop words and sentences and you started on your journey to self discovery and the world that you live in.
Remember meeting that very special someone that you really wanted to impress and get to know. You carefully put together just the right words that you thought would attract them to you and get them to like you as much as you liked them, but you soon realized that they were doing the same thing, and you had to learn to listen as well to their words, if you wanted to get to know them. While this might take a little longer because the average women speaks about 20,000 words in a day while men only speak about 7000, you might be sitting there for quite awhile men. (just a little joke ladies...very little joke)

Five Ways to Keep Your Relationship From Drowning

We always talk about how to salvage a relationship or how to get a girlfriend back even after she's already broken up with us. There are a lot of tips floating online teaching you how to con and manipulate your ex-girlfriend into winning her over. How sad is this reality that most of us expect that we will break up with our girlfriends at some point, that there are ready-made plans for retrieving them all around the Internet?
I dare to say that we must transform this school of thought: how about, for once, we think about ways to actually PREVENT any kind of breakup from happening? To try to save a relationship even before it sinks down the drain? If you truly love your girlfriend, I trust that you will do everything in your power to prevent any event that will lead to a breakup. And as it has been said time and time again, prevention is better than cure. Therefore, I shall proceed with this article with that principle in mind: how to maintain a happy, satisfying relationship.

Signs a Man Is Not Ready For a Relationship

There are many men out there who are faithful to one woman yet never commit to her. They may date only her, but never step it up to the next level. This is all fine and well for a while, but if the woman wants more, such as marriage, she may be barking up the wrong tree. The sad thing is often the woman gets in too deep. She is treated well and doesn't see it coming. When it hits her, she is already in love.
There are flags and signs that this man isn't ready for a relationship or won't commit to a relationship. One sign is how deeply involved in his life are you? If you have been dating a while and he has slotted time for you every week, although you are in his life it may not be that deeply. A man can take you out every Saturday night, call you every single day, share his day with you verbally and still not be ready for a relationship. These are surface things that are easy to do.
If he on the other hand takes you to Sunday dinner at his moms, or involves you with his family, and you do day to day activities together such as grocery shop, you are more involved. The man not ready for a relationship will give you just enough to keep you around.

5 Reasons Why He Is Not Commitment Ready

Commitment. It ends up being the make or break word of most relationships. If someone is unwilling to commit to you, then you know that at some point, you are going to have to move on without them. And when you find someone who IS willing to make a commitment to you, it can make you feel validated and like you are on top of the world.
When someone does NOT want to commit, it may make you wonder what their reasons are. It can make you feel worthless, or like there is something wrong with you. However, that is not always the case.
If you are wondering why someone is not wiling to make a commitment, here are 5 common reasons for this:
1) They are afraid of commitment.
This applies especially to guys. There are a lot of men out there who really are afraid of commitment. So much so, that it seems almost like a cliche to list it in the number one slot. This is something that you need to be aware of, though, because it is so common.

Sports Fans and Relationships

Baseball season sadly ended for me on Wednesday night, September 28th. Sure I know post season games are ongoing, but my team - the Atlanta Braves didn't make it this year. They lost their final opportunity on Wednesday night in a heartbreaking loss to the Philadelphia Phillies by a score of 3 - 4 in 12 innings. The Braves led going into the 9th inning and blew it. Like a merciful doctor, the Phillies pulled the plug on the Braves post season hopes and put an end to what was a tragic month of baseball.
Teams win and teams lose but the Braves like their American league counterpart the Boston Red Sox gave up significant leads as Wild Card leaders at the beginning of the September only to see them squander it, and lose it all on the final game of the regular season. The Braves finished the month of September with a record of 9 wins and 18 losses a record hardly worthy of post season play.
My allegiance is with and will always be with the Braves, but I don't allow it to cloud my objectivity and good sense. The Braves were not and should not be heading into the post season unless they were firing on all cylinders - hitting, pitching and fielding. By the end of the season, the St. Louis Cardinals were the better performing team, earning and deserving of their Wild Card win.

Great Ideas for Wedding Anniversary Gifts

When it comes to your wedding anniversary, you do not want to mess it up. One little mistake can haunt you forever. If you do something out of the ordinary then you can be a hero for the lifetime of your marriage. Everyone can do the easy things and get flowers, buy some type of jewelry, and go out for a fancy dinner. That will get you by but you are really just saying that you are lazy and the day is not that different from any other day. What you need to do is still get the flowers, jewelry, and go for the fancy dinner but also add a little extra something that lets your spouse know you still think about them and care.
You can schedule a hot air balloon ride. How romantic will that be? You and your spouse get up early in the morning and head out to a field only to be lifted up in the air by a balloon. Imagine the stories you can tell your friends and family about toasting each other with champagne while watching the sun come over the horizon as you are a thousand feet above the earth's surface. You will be the envy of everyone.
Another idea is to get a star named after your spouse. It may sound a little cheesy but some people will think it is very sweet. The process is easy and you will get a map showing you where the star is so you can see it through a telescope.

Personalized Anniversary Gift Ideas for Women

Anniversaries are wonderful celebrations that are filled with renewed love from the day a couple got married. Choosing a personalized anniversary gift for women is one of the best choices for many reasons. Not only do women love thoughtful gifts but they also love sentimental items that commemorate the love and connection they have with a loved one. By offering a special personalized anniversary gift, especially if it's a jewelry item, they will be able to enjoy the pieces every day while also getting that warm feeling every
time they see the message of love.
Women's Jewelry Options
To find out which personalized anniversary gift would work best, consider the following choices that are always popular for women:

A Personalized Anniversary Gift for Every Budget

Whether it's the first or the fiftieth, anniversaries are a very special occasion where a couple can celebrate the love they have for each other and exchange some fun or romantic gifts. Personalized anniversary gifts are a great way to commemorate the day a couple decided to join their lives together for the long haul.
No matter how old a couple may be or how long they have been together, a personalized anniversary gift is a very sweet and thoughtful gesture for the person you love. If you would like to get some personalized anniversary gift ideas that can fit with every budget and personality, consider some of the most popular options available:
Sweets
Personalized chocolates are a very sweet way to surprise a loved one. There are many different options for sweets that range from simple to more extravagant. A couple of personalized chocolates for after dinner are a lovely touch and certainly a thoughtful idea to show you care. If you would like something larger and more outgoing, a big decorative sweet with a personalized message will surely catch attention and show how much effort was put into planning it.

Christian Marriage Help: Five Signs That Show Your Spouse Is Serious About Ending Unfaithfulness

Are you looking for Christian marriage help to deal with your spouse's unfaithfulness to you? Whether it is in engaging in pornography, chat rooms, one night stands, a long-term affair, or any other sexual acting out, you want your spouse to stop and you want to know if the promises to stop are sincere. Any healing is contingent on the unfaithful spouse being "done" with the affair or acting out. How can you tell if your spouse is sincere in wanting to end the unfaithfulness?
Here are five signs that show your spouse is serious about ending unfaithfulness:

1. There is honesty and insight at a deep level about the unfaithfulness: why, when, how, where, and what.
2. There is obvious brokenness emotionally and spiritually about the sin committed before the Lord and the pain that you are experiencing.
3. There is acceptance of your feelings and boundaries. You are given space to be real and honest about your pain and your process as you work through all the emotions.
4. There is a willingness to make whatever changes you need with a good attitude.
5. There is a willingness to get help and be accountable and it is followed by action.

Why Do Men Cheat? A Psychotherapist Overview

Among the reasons already known and which can cause a mild intellectual irritation are: because they want to, because they can, because they cannot help it.... Any woman, no matter how sexy and attractive is, can be cheated on at a point.

And still: why do men cheat?

Do they have any excuse, any pretext, an answer that is not impertinent that he could give to you so that you can alchemize your struggling in compassion?

The reasons are not only sexual but often psychological - and that does not mean that he is stupid, but that his becoming as a man was sprinkled with unfortunate events.

Sex means validation - of masculinity, of the seduction force, sex means power.

To have an affair is easy - an affair is a relationship "purified" of the great expectations of love, is a relationship that requires only physical attraction and a tacit consent to adventure and duplicity.

It is no longer a mystery man's inclination to polygamy, scientifically documented and explained.

Can I Trust My Husband When He Says He Wants To Save Our Marriage After His Cheating And Affair?

I sometimes hear from wives who admit that their husband is seemingly doing and saying the right things after his affair. Even so, the wives often have a nagging little feeling that they just can't shake which is asking them if their husband is really sincere about everything that he says. Often, they really want to believe that they can trust and believe in him. But, despite this, they can't help but have their doubts.
I recently heard from a wife who said: "I caught my husband cheating on me last month. Turns out, the affair had been going on for about three weeks. He immediately apologized and begged for my forgiveness. Not only did he agree to go to counseling, but he found the counselor and made the appointment himself. He's doing and saying all the right things. He's constantly telling me how sorry he is and how he's going to make this all up to me if I will just give him the chance. But, I can't put my finger on what is bothering me because in the back of my mind, I can't help wondering if he is really and truly sincere. It's almost too perfect and too rehearsed. Sometimes, despite everything that he is telling me, I will watch him when he isn't aware that I am looking. And I will see this sort of faraway look on this face which I suspect means he's thinking of her. I almost feel like he's trying to make me believe in him so I will let my guard down and he can then see her again behind me back. I suppose my question is how do I know that he is really sincere when he's says he's sorry, that he'll never cheat again, and that he wants to save our marriage? How do I know that he isn't just telling me what I want to hear so that he will have the all clear to do what he wants to do on the sly?" I'll try to answer these questions in the following article.

Victory Over Selfishness

"Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others." Philippians 2:4

This scripture has helped me over the past two years address my own issues with selfishness. It took me awhile to admit to myself that I had a problem with being selfish, or stingy as my nephew calls it. But when you are very slow to offer or give others your time, money, possessions, or to lend an ear to friend when they need to talk, then you may have to look at your heart and find out why that is.

The heart is the wellspring of our lives. When we have problem areas in our lives, we must address the issues in our heart. Selfishness is one of those problem areas that focuses on the self too much and not enough on the plight of others. When you harbor selfishness in your heart it causes you to think of all the reasons why you shouldn't help or reach out to others when they need it.

If selfishness is allowed to go unaddressed in your life for too long, even after your family and friends may have confronted you on this issue many times, you will start to see how it affects your relationships and other areas of your life. Your relationships will suffer and you may even begin to lose friends or cut off loved ones because of your unwillingness to get yourself off your mind and help others.

Projections - We See In Others What We Need For Ourselves

Why do certain people or situations trigger an emotional response in us? Maybe a work colleague is aggressive towards us and we react either by leaving the room or sitting frozen to the spot.
The answer lies in our unexpressed emotions. In childhood if our needs weren't met, for example, a parent subdued our anger with a threat or named and shamed - blaming us for things that weren't our fault - the emotion that we felt gets 'split off'.
The strangest thing is that as we grow we begin to see the split off part all around us in others yet most of us are unaware of them.
So if someone says they 'don't do anger' (or another negative emotion) and yet it seems to follow them around chances are they need to reclaim their split off part or their projection.
Five steps to reclaiming your projections:
1. Begin to notice what it is about people that get on your nerves or you just can't stand being around.
2. Are there situations in your life that bring up certain emotions - e.g, abusive relationships, getting bullied often or do you meet lots of fearful situations in your life?

Christian Codependency: Changing the Beliefs Underlying False Guilt

Are you struggling with Christian codependency? If you answered yes, then you probably experience feeling guilty often in your relationships. Codependents struggle with guilt in relationships because they hold untrue beliefs about relationships. They need to change their inaccurate beliefs about relationships to the following true beliefs:

• You are not responsible for other people; you are responsible for yourself. You cannot prevent the people you love from experiencing the pain of their actions. God wants to use consequences to encourage them to change their behavior (Galatians 6:7-8). All of us will experience pain. Pain helps us grow. Each person has the right and dignity to choose how to live his/her life.


• You don't have to meet the demands of the people in your life-no matter how close they are to you. The more a person pushes you to do what he/she wants and the more guilt, anger, threats, pouting, and pressure thrown at you, the greater the emotional manipulation. Shift your guilt into recognizing that it is wrong to give into manipulation and that God wants you to be shrewd and aware of people's motives (Matthew 10:16).

Poems About Life - Custom-Written for All Occasions

WHY?
There are so many reasons to send poems about life to the people you care about. Or to a business colleague who has dome something important that deserves recognition. Next time there is a special occasion you should sending a rhyming tribute instead of an ordinary card. You will be amazed at the reception your tribute gets. You will make someone's day and there's no better feeling than that.
HOW TO BEGIN?
Make a list of the wonderful qualities this person has. Are they brilliant? Did they discover a new green energy source that is sure to save the planet? Or did they just go through a harrowing health crisis and show bravery beyond compare? Or maybe it's someone who puts up with you when you're moody and behaving miserably and, instead of walking out on you, they give you a hug. Poems about life can be about any of these situations or thousands of others that happen daily. So once you've got their qualities written down start weaving them into a story.